By Douglas Viko
If they don’t become narcissists themselves (NPD) or develop emotional dysregulation (BPD), then they usually become codependent empaths. The unhealed codependent empath usually has some combination of these traits:
- Has low self-esteem
- High work ethic / over achiever
- High moral standards / strong moral compass
- Anxiousness
- Poor boundaries
- People pleasing behaviors
- Uncontrolled empathy / tuning into others’ emotions
- Easily manipulated
- Never feeling good enough / worthy / imposter syndrome
- Possess loads of integrity
- A natural sense of justice
- Perfectionism
- Engages in risky behaviors or substance abuse
- Putting others before themselves to their own detriment.
- Apologizes for things they did not cause
- Questions / Overthinks decisions
- Autoimmune issues
- Is often surrounded by toxic people that prey on their empathy, kindness and talents.
- Self-isolating / Makes friends easily but often does not maintain relationships.
- Gives too much
- Does not trust other people’s intentions
- Engages in negative self-talk
- Gives little value to themselves
- Makes excuses for, defends or sees goodness in bad people
- Hyper vigilance / Always preparing for worst case scenario
Once the codependent empath begins healing, many of the most negative and self-harmful traits begin to reverse and combined with their positive traits, they can become quite a force to be reckoned with. Their confidence improves and they no longer are as easily manipulated, used or fooled by toxic people.
